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Dear Mina,
I’m a single, white wererat, currently in a long-term committed relationship with a 20-something human woman named R.
Or at least I thought it was a committed relationship. Last week, I proposed to her and she turned me down! She says she’s happy with things the way they are. I suggested that we just live together, to see how compatible we are, but she turned that offer down too! She says she loves me, but that she doesn’t want to marry anyone, ever.
Mina, I really love this woman. But I’m an old-fashioned kind of guy, even though I do turn furry once a month. And I want traditional things. I thought R did too. She and her best friend no longer speak because the friend is involved in some pretty unconventional relationships, so I was really taken by surprise by her attitude towards marriage.
What should I do?
Furry and alone in Alton
Dear Furry,
It’s possible that your R is uncomfortable with your shape shifter status. I know from my very important work with the Coalition to offer Better Understanding Between Lycanthrope and Human Communities that even the most open-minded of humans can sometimes have blind spots they are aware of! I’d suggest that you give our a copy of my book When Someone You Love is a Lycanthrope. (Berkley Books, $13.95)
Of course it may also be that she just doesn’t want to get married…
Mina
Dear Mina,
I’m only 20 years old, but I already know that I’ve met the woman of my dreams. Unfortunately, she’s older than me and has several boyfriends, including one
who lives with us.(I guess I should mention that I live with her and sort of keep house for her.)
She’s human and I’m wereleopard, but I know that’s not the problem, since her other lovers include a wereleopard, a werewolf, and a vampire.
What can I do to make her see me as something other than just a kid who’s handy to have around?
N
Dear N,
Chapter 5 of my book Women Who Love Monsters And The Monsters Who Love Them (Berkley Books, $6.99) I discuss the situation very somewhere to the one that you find yourself in (except for the part about the housekeeping). It’s available in bookstores everywhere. I highly recommend it. It’s based on very important research I did while getting my Associates degree in Preternatural Relations from County Community College.
Good Luck!
Mina
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